The People Pleaser Pattern


“If you have a People Pleaser Pattern, you often try to be who others want you to be, to agree with them, to fit in.
You may not be consciously aware that you are doing this, but there is a part of your psyche that wants to please others in order to avoid reactions that you are afraid of.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you always act compliant.
Even when your pleasing part is activated, there may be other parts of you that feel other things.
While you are being pleasing, another part of you may be feeling ashamed of this, and eventually this part may speak up.”.

(Jay Earley)

The Pattern System. By Jay Earley.

Categories : psychology